價值觀盲點

緊抓著某樣東西(物質或觀點),意味著更多的東西(物質或觀點)常不自覺地因此而被自己忽略了。誰說正在被自己緊緊抓住的物質或觀點就是最適合(我不講「最有價值」,但這卻又跟自己的價值觀有關聯,人的取捨經常是依照自己的價值觀而為之,但價值是相對而非絕對的)自己的呢?

從更寬廣的角度來看,常常自以為眼睛雪亮的人卻是不折不扣的睁眼瞎子,自以為聰明得不得了的人卻常被自己給矇蔽住了。

昨天收到一個轉發來的e-mail,裡面附了一則故事,說是從網站Craig’s List上面來的,不過我搜尋了半天,卻在Craig’s List裡怎麼也找不到原文,所以這個所謂的來源姑且聽之。無論如何,即使是捏造的,我對撰寫此文的傢伙是充滿敬意的,感寫他創造出這麼一則內含寬廣洞見的「警世錄」出來。這是一則急著找尋金龜婿的美貌姑娘的發問,與一則金融投資專家給予的建議性回答,相當精采。

原文與翻譯如下(原文來自於此;大部分的翻譯不是我翻的,翻譯來源在此,因為有些段落漏翻,我有補上藍色的部分):

下面是美貌姑娘的提問:

What am I doing wrong?
我怎樣才能嫁給有錢人?

Okay, I’m tired of beating around the bush. I’m a beautiful
(spectacularly beautiful) 25 year old girl. I’m articulate and classy. I’m not from New York. I’m looking to get married to a guy who makes at least half a million a year. I know how that sounds, but keep in mind that a million a year is middle class in New York City, so I don’t think I’m overreaching at all.
我下面要說的都是心裡話。本人25歲,非常漂亮,是那種讓人驚艷的漂亮,談 吐文雅,有品位,想嫁給年薪50萬美元的人。你也許會說我貪心,但在紐約年 薪100萬才算是中產,本人的要求其實不高。

Are there any guys who make 500K or more on this board? Any wives? Could you send me some tips? I dated a business man who makes average around 200 – 250. But that’s where I seem to hit a roadblock. 250,000 won’t get me to central park west. I know a woman in my yoga class who was married to an investment banker and lives in Tribeca, and she’s not as pretty as I am, nor is she a great genius. So what is she doing right? How do I get to her level?
這個版上有沒有年薪超過 50萬的人? 你們都結婚了嗎?我想請教各位一個問題——怎樣才能嫁給你們這樣的有錢人? 我約會過的人中,最有錢的年薪25萬,這似乎是我的上限。要住進紐約中心公園以西的高尚住宅區,年薪25萬遠遠不夠。我是來誠心誠意請教的。

Here are my questions specifically:
有幾個具體的問題︰

– Where do you single rich men hang out? Give me specifics- bars, restaurants, gyms
-有錢的單身漢一般都在哪裡消磨時光? (請列出酒吧、飯店、健身房的名 字和詳細地址。)

-What are you looking for in a mate? Be honest guys, you won’t hurt my feelings
-你們想找尋的伴侶是什麼樣子的?請老實的說,實話不會傷到我的。

-Is there an age range I should be targeting (I’m 25)?
-我應該把目標定在哪個年齡段?

– Why are some of the women living lavish lifestyles on the upper east side so plain? I’ve seen really ‘plain jane’ boring types who have nothing to offer married to incredibly wealthy guys. I’ve seen drop dead gorgeous girls in singles bars in the east village. What’s the story there?
-為什麼有些富豪的妻子看起來相貌平平?我見過有些女孩,長相如同白開水,毫無吸引人的地方,但她們卻能嫁入豪門。而單身酒吧裡那些迷死人的美女卻運氣不佳。

– Jobs I should look out for? Everyone knows – lawyer, investment banker, doctor. How much do those guys really make? And where do they hang out? Where do the hedge fund guys hang out?
-對方好是幹哪行的?最淺顯的答案不外乎是:律師、投資銀行家、或是醫生。這些傢伙到底能賺多少錢啊?他們常在哪裡出沒?避險基金的經理人常在哪裡出現啊?

– How you decide marriage vs. just a girlfriend? I am looking for MARRIAGE ONLY
-你們怎麼決定誰能做妻子,誰只能做女朋友? (我現在的目標是結婚。)

Please hold your insults – I’m putting myself out there in an honest way. Most beautiful women are superficial; at least I’m being up front about it. I wouldn’t be searching for these kind of guys if I wasn’t able to match them – in looks, culture, sophistication, and keeping a nice home and hearth.
請在回覆時不要出言羞辱人-我是認真的在此提出問題。大部分的美女都是膚淺的;至少我敢面對這點。我並不會找尋我在外貌上、文化上、成熟度上、以及顧家程度上匹配不了的男人。

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other commercial interests
* 請勿以商業服務緣由聯繫本貼作者

下面是金融投資專家的回答:

I read your posting with great interest and have thought meaningfully about your dilemma. I offer the following analysis of your predicament. Firstly, I’m not wasting your time, I qualify as a guy who fits your bill; that is I make more than five-hundred thousand dollars a year. That said, here’s how I see it.
我懷著極大的興趣看完了貴帖,相信不少女士也有跟你類似的疑問。讓我以一個 投資專家的身份,對你的處境做一分析。我年薪超過5 0萬,符合你的擇偶標準,所以請相信我並不是在浪費大家的時間。

Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me, is plain and simple a bad business deal. Here’s why. Cutting through all the bull, what you suggest is a simple trade: you bring your looks to the party and I bring my money. Fine, simple. But here’s the rub, your looks will fade and my money will likely continue into perpetuity…in fact, it is very likely that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won’t be getting any more beautiful!
從生意人的角度來看,跟你結婚是個糟糕的經營決策,道理再明白不過,請聽我解釋。拋開細枝末節,你所說的其實是一筆簡單的"財""貌"交易︰甲方提供述人的外表,乙方出錢,公平交易,童叟無欺。但是,這裡有個致命的問題,你的美貌會消逝,但我的錢卻不會無緣無故減少。事實上,我的收入很可能會逐年遞增.而你不可能一年比一年漂亮。

So, in economic terms you are a depreciating asset and I am an earning asset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation accelerates! Let me explain, you’re 25 now and will likely stay pretty hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in earnest. By 35 stick a fork in you!
因此,從經濟學的角度講,我是增值資產,你是貶值資產,不但貶值,而且是加速貶值!你現在25,在未來的五年裡,你仍可以保持窈窕的身段,俏麗的容貌,雖然每年略有退步。但美貌消逝的速度會越來越快,如果它是你僅有的資產,十年以後你的價值甚憂。

So in Wall Street terms, we would call you a trading position, not a buy and hold…hence the rub…marriage. It doesn’t make good business sense to “buy you" (which is what you’re asking) so I’d rather lease. In case you think I’m being cruel, I would say the following. If my money were to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need an out. It’s as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating, not marriage.
用華爾街術語說,每筆交易都有一個倉位,跟你交往屬于"交易倉位"(trading position),一旦價值下跌就要立即拋售,而不宜長期持有——也就是你想要的婚姻。聽起來很殘忍,但對一件會加速貶值的物資,明智的選擇是租賃,而不是購入。年薪能超過50萬的人,當然都不是傻瓜,因此我們只會跟你交往,但不會跟你結婚。所以我勸你不要苦苦尋找嫁給有錢人的秘方。

Separately, I was taught early in my career about efficient markets. So, I wonder why a girl as “articulate, classy and spectacularly beautiful" as you has been unable to find your sugar daddy. I find it hard to believe that if you are as gorgeous as you say you are that the five-hundred-thousand dollar guy hasn’t found you, if not only for a tryout.
講個題外話,我在過往的職業生涯中學到了所謂效率市場的原理。我對於一個像妳這樣既"談 吐文雅、有品位、又能讓人驚艷"的女孩仍然釣不到個冤大頭感到疑惑。如果妳不止是抱著試試看的心理,我不禁質疑妳是否真的像自己說的那般迷人卻沒有個年產值50萬美金的男人能找到你。

By the way, you could always find a way to make your own money and then we wouldn’t need to have this difficult conversation.
順便說一句,你倒可以想辦法把自己變成年薪50萬的人,這比碰到一個有錢的傻瓜的勝算要大。

With all that said, I must say you’re going about it the right way. Classic “pump and dump." I hope this is helpful, and if you want to enter into some sort of lease, let me know.
總而言之,我必須說妳的手法應該算是還可以的。算是蠻典型的"哄抬價格"。希望我的回帖能對你有幫助。如果你對"租賃"感興趣,請跟我聯繫。

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